Thursday, April 3, 2014

Five years of marriage equallity in Iowa


Today is the five year anniversary of marriage equality in Iowa.

Five fantastic years! And for the naysayers - I checked and, nope, the sky has not fallen yet.

Freedom To Marry shares this beautiful first-person essay by David Twombley, who along with with his longtime partner Larry Hoch, five other same-sex couples, and Lambda Legal succeeded with their lawsuit in Iowa back in 2008 seeking the freedom to marry.

It seems impossible that nearly five years have gone by since our historic win for marriage equality in the Iowa Supreme Court. It's wonderful to know that Larry and I have been married for five years this coming September.

What an incredible journey this has been. We both are often asked if we would do it again - the fight for equality, as well as getting married at all - and our response is always the same: "In a heart beat." I know, personally, I would never have missed any of the years of planning and hoping.

Two of the strongest memories for me were the day of the hearing before the Supreme Court and the feeling following that we were going to win our lawsuit. Call it intuition or a hunch, but I think it was the tenor of the questions asked each side by the Justices and the answers that they received.

I know I was very optimistic, and I never lost that feeling.

The second memory, and the strongest: We had been sequestered from the press the morning the decision was to be announced - April 3, 2009 - we did not know the outcome as we came into the room to hear the official announcement. As we came in, I saw our good friends, Betty & Bruce Hunter, and Betty was crying when she looked at me.

My initial reaction was that we had lost the case! Of course, I found out soon that it was tears of happiness. My heart was beating so hard before Camilla Taylor made that wonderful announcement that we had been successful. I was squeezing Larry’s hand so hard - I’m glad I didn’t break any bones! The phone calls, e-mails and all other support we received were incredible.

It is a humble feeling to know that Larry and I are part of civil rights history in Iowa - and it is exciting to see the nation continue to move closer and closer to a future where same-sex couples across the country, in every state, can share in the happiness that Larry and I have shared for five years.

More Iowa marriage equality happiness below!



(via TRR reader Paul)

1 comment:

  1. I love reading about this as my husband and I are direct beneficiaries of the ruling. We have lived in Iowa since 1995 and when the ruling was announced, we were overjoyed. Fourteen months later, we were wed.

    Contrary to what the naysayers preached, the world didn't come to an end. The state is a better place.

    Five years has FLOWN by! Looking forward to the day when all 50 states have marriage equality.

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